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What's Your Body Telling You?
Natalie DeRose • July 27, 2020

We are currently living in unprecedented times that can cause us to feel heightened distress and anxiety. Sometimes we are aware of the stress we may be feeling; however, there are times when our conscious mind is not aware of our own emotions and the bodily sensations that accompany them. When this occurs, the body speaks in ways that we may not be aware of, such as a shaking leg or other unconscious movements. When our body is speaking, we frequently dismiss the messages being transmitted because we don’t know how to interpret these signs. As a result, we let emotions go unresolved and remain unchecked, which allows energy to stay trapped in the body.



You can pay attention to what your body is saying by consciously checking in with your body. When was the last time you checked in with your physical self? It’s probably been a while! Checking in with our bodily sensations is a great way to discover purposive messages that we may otherwise miss.



Here are four ways to check in with your physical self:



Check In With Your Body Through Mindfulness

Mindfulness meditation allows us to be in tune and connected with our bodies and the signs our bodies are sending us. To check in with our bodies using mindfulness, follow these steps: 

  • First, it’s important to find a quiet place that has little to no distractions.
  • Once you’ve found a quiet and safe place, make sure to sit or lay down in a position that you find comfortable before closing your eyes.
  • Take a few deep breaths in order to ground yourself in preparation for focusing on the bodily sensations that you may feel.
  • While taking consistently deep breaths, bring mindful attention to the body starting with the very base of your feet, your toes, and your ankles. Move up through the body at a pace that you feel comfortable with
  • Ask yourself these questions as you progress throughout the body:  What am I feeling here? What could this feeling mean for me?

It’s important to note that when we engage in this action, known as the body scan meditation, it’s natural for our minds to wander and drift. What’s important is that we are bringing out attention back to the present moment as we are checking in with our body.



Posture

We seldom pay attention to our posture when we are standing or sitting, but our posture can tell us quite a bit about how we are feeling. What is your posture at this moment? Some clinicians pose that our posture can actually display our unconscious beliefs about ourselves, those around us, and our attitudes towards the event we are experiencing in that moment.



Standing straight can represent a neutral stance in our present moment, whereas being in a slouched position often reflects feeling bored, anxious, and other negative emotions. Interestingly, having our arms crossed when we are standing often represents a defensive and closed off stance.



In checking in with our posture, it’s important to try to understand what the posture we are presenting might be reflecting for us internally. What is the message our body is trying to tell us at that moment?



Tension

We hold tension and emotions throughout our body. As you are reading this, take a moment to check in on the places that you typically hold tension. Drop your shoulders, unclench your jaw, and stretch each area while taking your eyes away from any screens for a few moments. Check in on these areas periodically, as tension does build up overtime!



Approach Feelings Non-judgmentally

Have you felt something in your body as you were experiencing something? A pit in your stomach? A tingling on the back of your neck? Arguably the most important time to check in with the body is in the moment when you are moving through an event and/or experiencing a feeling. For example, if we are speaking to someone and our chest feels heavy, it is important to take note of that feeling in the moment and explore it in a non-judgmental way. Without being too hard on yourself for experiencing the feeling, ask yourself what this feeling may be trying to tell you.



In looking at these different ways of checking in with our body, it is important to always look at the purpose of the body’s messages. If you are feeling something with the body, a shift in posture, a build-up of tension, or a feeling after an event, ask yourself what your body is trying to communicate. It can be a challenge to notice and attend to all our bodily messages in the moment in which we experience them but through practice and integration this process of aligning ourselves with our body can become second nature.


Written by: Natalie DeRose, M. Psy. Candidate, B.A. (Hons)

Edited/Reviewed by: Dr. Stacy Lekkos, C.Psych and Chantal Legere, M.Psy. Candidate, B.A. (Hons)  



References



Levey, D. K. (n.d.). 5 Surprising Places You Hold Stress. In Doctor Oz . Retrieved from https://www.doctoroz.com/gallery/5-surprising-places-you-hold-stress



Petan, G. (2020, June 11). Body Language in a Professional Setting: What Your Cues Reveal About You. In Quality Logo Products Blog. Retrieved from https://www.qualitylogoproducts.com/blog/body-language-professional-setting-what-cues-reveal/



Salter, M. (2018 , December 16). Pay attention—your body language is speaking. In Meg Salter Mindfulness Coach | Executive Coach . Retrieved from https://megsalter.com/pay-attention-your-body-language-is-speaking/



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Tips to manage blue light exposure: Setting a screen time curfew Wearing blue light protective glasses Turn on blue light blockers on devices, i.e. phones and computers (f.lux and Nightshift are recommended for iOS users and Twilight for android users) Instead of watching TV, movies, or YouTube before bed, listen to a podcast or audiobook with the screen off or on sleep mode. Ensure your room is completely pitch black at night, with no lights on, curtains closed, and any technology still on should be covered. For those of you who sleep with a light on, it’s recommended to buy a red light for your bedroom. Not only do these look cool but red light on the visible light spectrum has been shown to have little to no effect on both melatonin and cortisol levels. This is hypothesized to be due to the fact that humans have evolved sleeping by fire throughout human history (Stevenson, 2016). 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No matter how complex or simple it is, when you have a reason to do something, you are more likely to actually follow through with it. Remember to remind yourself why you want to focus on this area of your life. This will be particularly important when the going gets tough or if you fall victim of your previous routine way of functioning. Remember, meaningful change (in this case, sleep) does not happen overnight. Limit Blue Light Exposure Cutting out screen time before bed is one of the most effective ways to improve sleep quality. However, I’m fairly confident that most of you reading this will end the last moments of your night on a screen, whether it's a phone, computer, iPad, or the television. Throughout human evolution, humans evolved to be awake when the sun was up and to fall asleep when the sun went down. The problem with blue light specifically is that it has shown to stimulate the brain in areas that are active during alert day hours, disorienting the body’s natural preparation for sleep. Furthermore, blue light suppresses melatonin production (the hormone that makes you sleepy) and elevates cortisol (the hormone associated with stress ). Mariana Figueiro, PhD., found that two hours of screen time before bed displayed a suppression in melatonin levels in the brain (Figeuiro et. al., 2011). In fact, even when our eyes are closed, we have photo-receptors all over our skin that absorb light just as our retinas in our eyes would. Thus, having screens on anywhere around our sleeping areas is problematic. Tips to manage blue light exposure: Setting a screen time curfew Wearing blue light protective glasses Turn on blue light blockers on devices, i.e. phones and computers (f.lux and Nightshift are recommended for iOS users and Twilight for android users) Instead of watching TV, movies, or YouTube before bed, listen to a podcast or audiobook with the screen off or on sleep mode. Ensure your room is completely pitch black at night, with no lights on, curtains closed, and any technology still on should be covered. For those of you who sleep with a light on, it’s recommended to buy a red light for your bedroom. Not only do these look cool but red light on the visible light spectrum has been shown to have little to no effect on both melatonin and cortisol levels. This is hypothesized to be due to the fact that humans have evolved sleeping by fire throughout human history (Stevenson, 2016). Caffeine Consumption Before getting into what you can do to manage your caffeine consumption, let’s take a simplistic look at what caffeine actually does to the brain that impacts our sleep. During normal functioning hours, the brain slowly accumulates a chemical called adenosine that binds to receptors to slow down brain activity and make you feel tired. The longer you are awake, the more tired you feel. Where caffeine comes into play is that it is shaped very similarly to adenosine and it binds to brain receptors. When these receptors are blocked by caffeine instead of adenosine, this tricks the brain into thinking it's not tired. Caffeine has a half-life of about 6-8 hours. A standard cup of coffee has roughly 150g of caffeine in it. What this means is that after about 6-8 hours there is still about 75g of caffeine in your system. Therefore, the timing of your caffeine consumption is just as important as the quantity. With this being said, the best strategy involves setting a caffeine curfew in order to reduce the amount of caffeine in your system by bedtime. It is recommended to cut out all sources of caffeine approximately 8 hours before bed. This includes coffee, caffeinated teas, espresso, or any other source of caffeine. Change Your Mindset in Regards to Sleep Although the other two points mentioned will probably apply to most readers, this one was the most influential point towards improving my sleep. I associated sleep with a negative outlook, specifically with loss of time. I knew through research and extensive thought that if I was going to improve my quality of sleep I was going to have to change my mindset. That isn’t the easiest task, especially when you spend years of your life thinking you dislike something. Some things that I did that helped me with this was reinforcing my why . The more I thought about why I was addressing my sleep, the easier it became to desire wanting sleep. Once I slowly worked towards this, I found that my anxiety associated with loss of time began to reduce and I was able to associate sleep with a positive mindset. Meditate Mindfulness is the act of becoming aware in the present moment, without judgement. The practice of mindfulness through mindful meditation can provide an opportunity to create mental space at bedtime and to help you feel more relaxed. Mindfulness can also help you to cope with negative thoughts surrounding sleep and to help you shift your focus to your body and to be present. This technique is easily accessible by downloading free apps or using beginner guided sleep meditation videos on YouTube. Other Minor Tips to Improve Your Sleep Journaling is an excellent release before bedtime, especially if you are an over thinker. Letting out the thoughts on paper and getting them out of your head will allow you to focus more on sleep and less on what’s on your mind. Invest in a good mattress. As mentioned earlier, we are going to spend about one third of our lives sleeping so why not ensure that we get the best sleep possible? If you are not in an ideal financial situation at the moment, perhaps investing in a proper mattress isn’t realistic. For you, I suggest buying a memory foam topper or just a mattress topper. This is an inexpensive way to improve sleep quality. Sleep and wake at consistent hours. Our super complex yet lazy brain loves to work off of routines so do your brain a favour and go to bed and wake up around the same time. This will make the process easier on yourself and will make you less likely to give up from frustrations of not being able to accomplish what you set out to. Do not, and I repeat do not, do any work or eating or anything in your bed besides sleep. The brain works off of associations so don’t confuse your brain into thinking your mattress is an office, movie theater, or a kitchen table. This is just the beginning when it comes to ways to improve your sleep, as solutions often depend on one’s specific sleep challenges. However, trying any of these tips can be beneficial as improving our sleep is crucial to improving our physical and psychological well-being. Best of luck on your sleep journey and sweet dreams. Written By: Erik Michalik, M. Psy Candidate, BASc, Edited/Reviewed by : Chantal Legere, M. Psy References Figueiro MG, Wood B, Plitnick B, Rea MS. (2011) The impact of light from computer monitors on melatonin levels in college students. Neuro Endocrinol Lett .; 32(2):158-63. PMID: 21552190. Stevenson, S. (2016). Sleep smarter: 21 essential strategies to sleep your way to a better body, better health, and bigger success . New York, NY: Rodale Books. Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels
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