It’s only the beginning of the decade yet it feels like it’s already dragged on for an eternity. The effect of January was felt by most of us like an emotional earthquake, with the accumulation of snowy weather, viral outbreaks, climate change, civil unrest, and the tragic loss of a global icon. It’s safe to say we’ve felt, collectively, overwhelmed and overburdened. So much so that “Thank goodness it’s February” was trending on social media.
The same feelings can be experienced on an individual level. The accumulation of work, family, and personal issues can lead us to feeling burdened, worn out, even anxious and depressed. The thought of working toward a small goal seems like a monumental task and we become easily discouraged and, ultimately, defeated. If we were to add anything else to the plate in our minds it would surely tip over and come crashing onto the floor, shattering into a million pieces. How then, do we pick up the pieces and find the calm amongst the chaos? It begins with picking up one piece at a time and inevitably looking for the metaphorical bottle of glue.
Here are some tips for how to put the pieces back together and find calm in chaos:
Adjust Your Focus
Remember in the 90’s when Magic Eyes were all the rage? Close up it would seem like a plethora of randomized dots and squiggles, or “noise”. Yet if you let your eyes relax and look beyond the random noise you could clearly see the 3D picture, which eventually emerged, like magic, right before your eyes. In order to see the calm through the chaos, we need to adjust our focus and be mindful. Look past the noise to find the peace and beauty which lies beyond it. Amongst the chaos, pick one point of calm in an area of your life which feels a bit balanced or which brings you joy. Then, focus on that calm and how good it feels!
Plan and Prioritize
Similar to adjusting your focus you need to prioritize where to start. It’s like starting a puzzle by finding the corner or edges, or sorting by colour or object, as the first step to completing it. Prioritize where you want to start and plan to address it. What is your goal? Plan a point of action to achieve it. Make it attainable. New Year’s resolutions are often abandoned because they are too grandiose and feel unattainable. When things are overwhelming we have to break them down into small, simple steps. Start with the corners of the puzzle and then fill in the rest.
Practice Positivity
Life is all about balance. If we are up, we come down, and then we go back up again. The scale tips left, it must tip right, to level and stabilize. Being surrounded by negativity, or noise needs to be neutralized by positivity so that we become balanced again. If things become hectic, we slow down. Once we’ve collected and calmed ourselves we can tackle the toughness with new energy and a conscious calm. If it’s difficult to evoke joy in your life, start by embracing the basics. What brought you joy as a child? Who is a joyful person in your life whom you can spend time with? Surrender yourself to positivity. Sometimes it can be easy to get caught up in the negativity tornado, especially when our surrounding environment is enveloped in it. Block out the negative noise and radiate positivity. Smile for the sake of smiling. Laugh to increase happiness. Once you embrace positivity, you raise your vibration and the vibration of those around you. Positivity is contagious!
The first step in working through feeling burdened and overwhelmed is becoming aware of how you are feeling. The next step is addressing it by embracing simplicity and positivity. Next, is asking for help. You can turn to those you trust, such as your family, friends, a psychologist, or other mental health professional. The more caring and positive your community is, the more supported, calm, and happy you will feel. If you don’t know where or how to start putting back the pieces,
we can help! One little piece at a time.
Written by Dr. Nicole Daniels, N.D.
Reviewed/Edited by Dr. Stacy Lekkos, C. Psych
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