The capacity to stand solid is a useful resource when confronting life’s troubles but creating that quality does not come naturally to everyone. Confident people have a positive perception of themselves and carry themselves in a way which reflects that.
If your level of self-confidence isn't where you'd like it to be, here are eleven things you can do to increase your self-confidence:
Smile
Smiling can make you more approachable and can also make any situation feel more relaxed and comfortable. Smiling will make those around you also feel more comfortable.
Improve Your Posture
The posture that we adopt can easily affect how we feel about ourselves. When we are slouching or looking down, we are often not communicating confidence. Although it might feel silly, trying out powerful stances can help to adjust your frame of mind. Even sitting up straighter can help us to feel more confident.
Identify Your Strengths
Spend some time reflecting on the things you are good at. Consider positive things others have said about you. Focus on these things and strive to integrate these activities into your daily life.
Identify and Improve Your Weaknesses
It’s also important to spend time reflecting on the things we are not good at. Consider ways in which you could improve in both work and personal life and set goals to improve these attributes.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Whether it's comparing pictures of ourselves to others on Instagram or comparing your salary, comparisons are not healthy. In fact Morin (2019) noted that individuals who compare themselves to others often experience envy, and this envy can lead us to feel bad about ourselves. Try to pay attention to when you compare your skills, achievements, and personal appearance to others. When you notice that you are doing this, try to remind yourself that life is not a competition and that these comparisons are not helpful.
Improve Your Communication Skills
Effective communication skills help us to excel in work and social interactions by increasing our ability to understand others and feel understood. One of the best ways to improve communication skills is to relax and be yourself. Don’t try to speak or be like someone you’re not. Maintaining good eye contact, asking open-ended questions, being clear, being mindful of your body language, and giving the other person your undivided attention are also helpful ways to improve communication skills.
Know Your Self-Worth
Don't undervalue yourself. Permitting others to control your feelings or to take advantage of you compromises your self-esteem. Keep in mind that the feeling of value comes from within, and you're the only one who can decide how you are feeling around yourself. Being flawed does not make you unworthy of being cherished, it makes you human.
Know that Failure Leads to Success
Knowing when to step back and reevaluate may be an important aptitude. Learn from your mistakes and utilize that information toward future success. Beating yourself up over past mistakes decreases the vitality you wish to form as a more positive future. Success requires tolerance, conscientiousness, and a sound viewpoint on making mistakes. There’s no better certainty than overcoming an obstacle and meeting an individual challenge or goal.
Trust Your Gut Feeling
When confronted with a troublesome decision, trust your gut. Recognize that when something does not feel right, it likely is not. When it’s not an urgent circumstance, take the time to weigh the pros and cons and then act appropriately. Do what you really think and feel is right.
Know When to Lead and When to Follow
Give up the need to continuously be in charge and understand it is okay to be in a supporting role. Sometimes another person’s needs ought to come first; other times, it is imperative to be more assertive. Be keen on sharing your thoughts and conclusions, you may really gain respect and create the kind of well-balanced connections you're looking for, which can increase your self-confidence.
Express Your Values
Clearly express your values to those around you. The capacity to do this requires some contemplation into what you accept around yourself. How you prioritize your life shows others who you are and what is vital to you; living in alignment with your values permits a sense of self-confidence to shine through.
If you need help on increasing your self-confidence, reach out to us and we can help!
Written By: Sumbel Malik, M. Psy. Candidate, B. A. (Hons) and Chantal Legere, M. Psy.
Edited/Reviewed by: Dr. Stacy Lekkos, C. Psych
References
Morin, A. (2019). 5 Ways to Start Boosting Your Self-Confidence Today. Retrieved from
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-boost-your-self-confidence-4163098
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