As we continue to experience the COVID-19 pandemic, an event that has universally and profoundly influenced our human activity, we have begun to recognize the many disruptions that have occurred in connection to our sense of psychological and physiological well-being. This new way of being has transpired into a life-changing experience that has prompted concerns around the topic of children and stress induction.
Learning to deal with stress is an integral part of healthy development. When faced with extreme worry or fear, our stress response system is activated. This prompts the body and brain to go on alert, triggering an adrenaline rush and an increased heart rate that intensifies the production of stress hormones. However, when stress is relieved by support and care from the child's caregiver, this causes worries to lessen. Thus, allowing the body to return to a normal state of functioning.
Recent studies suggest that children are demonstrating a significant number of stress-related symptoms based on the expansive changes to their daily routine and structure. Currently, children are less physically active, experience irregular sleep patterns, have reduced contact with their peers, are deprived of several leisure activities, and are confined in their homes for most of the day. These changes have the ability to cause significant impacts on a child's overall well-being, which can go on to promote both emotional and behavioural dysregulation.
Promoting Wellness and Resilience
Adults and caregivers play a fundamental role in helping children reduce distress and develop resilience. Resilience can be defined as the capacity to recover from change or difficulty, or to bounce-back following an adverse experience. There are a variety of skills that parents can teach their children in order to encourage courage, self-regulation, and self-awareness, as well as resilience. One of the most effective ways of doing this is by incorporating the Seven C's of Building Resilience (Building Resilience in Children, 2015) into your child's daily life:
Competence
Competence can be defined as the ability to effectively handle a situation. Unfortunately, children can not develop competence without first developing skills that allow them to trust their own judgement and make responsible choices. Questions for parents to consider may include:
Confidence
Once children establish a level of competency, they can build confidence by validating personal achievements through genuine praise for their efforts and contributions. Parents should value their children’s accomplishments and guide them towards developing a sense of mastery. Additionally, this also involves not pushing a child to take on more than they can handle. Questions for parents to consider may include:
Connection
For children to establish a sense of connection, parents need to foster a sense of psychological safety and security. This creates an environment that is calming and stress-free, allowing space for the ability to communicate one's feelings. Every child needs a secure base to from which they can explore environments and build healthy relationships in order to move forward towards building resilience. Questions for parents to consider may include:
Character
To strengthen a child's character and develop resilience, it is important to develop a set of values and morals. This helps children to recognize how their behaviours can impact their friends and family, as well as others in the community. Questions for parents to consider may include:
Contribution
Parents can embrace their children's character by generating opportunities for them to contribute to their community. This allows children to develop a sense of purpose and motivates them to take action towards improving the world around them. Questions for parents to consider may be:
Coping
Parents can help to impact a child's well-being by teaching them healthy coping strategies as a way to deal with difficulties, as children who learn to cope with stress are often better prepared to overcome challenges. It is extremely important for parents to model these coping strategies on a consistent basis in order to guide children regarding how to effectively deal with stress. Some methods can include deep breathing exercises, counting down, and re-directing children's attention using mindfulness. Questions for parents to consider may include:
Control
Lastly, helping your child to understand that events do not occur at random, but are a consequence of others' choices will help them to learn that they can control their own outcome. Promoting this internal sense of control also helps children to trust their ability to handle difficult situations. Questions for parents to consider may consist of:
There has never been a more important time to help our children learn how to effectively cope with stress. In the face of uncertainty and many changes, it is crucial to help our children feel safe, capable, and confident in their abilities. Consider asking yourself the questions posed above and implement these strategies, in order to both strengthen your relationship with your child and help them become more resilient during this difficult time.
Written By: Mary Zamil, RP (Qualifying), M.A., B.A. (Hons)
Edited/Reviewed by: Chantal Legere, M. Psy. Candidate, B.A. (Hons)
References
Building Resilience in Children. HealthyChildren.org. N.p.,5 Seven Cs BUILDING BLOCKS OF RESILIENCY. (2015). Retrieved from http://www.portlandpediatric.com/console//page-images/files/building-resilience/All Ages/Seven Cs.pdf
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